Teen Confidence, Self-esteem, and Resilience

“In order to have confidence and compassion for ourselves and others, we must develop the resilience and courage to deal effectively with the ordinary difficulties of life.” (Pyschology Today, Dr. Polly Young-Eisendrath, September 16, 2011). Confidence is the belief that you are competent in your abilities in a particular situation or a specific task. Confidence is an acknowledgement of one’s strengths. Less confident peers may judge a confident teenager as conceited. Teens benefit from … [Read more...]

The Cycle of Perfect Procrastination

Procrastination is a way for you to be unkind to yourself! Procrastination is something we’re all familiar with, whether we admit it or not. Basically, procrastination refers to those times when you do everything and anything you can to avoid doing the work you should be doing. Why do we procrastinate?   Procrastination of the perfectionist One of the reasons some of us procrastinate, is that we want everything to be perfect. Let me explain: as perfectionists we expect a lot … [Read more...]

Enhancing Your Teen’s Money-Management Mindset

Many teens could benefit from a better relationship with money despite earning money to spend what they earn on their desires. It is beneficial to facilitate  teens’ love of Having money versus their love of Spending money. Assisting your teen with opening a checking and savings account is a good first step. You may consider contributing $100 most banks require to open your teen's accounts. Secondly, suggesting to your teen that the savings account is really an “Honoring of ME” account with … [Read more...]

The Awareness Factor

Many of the teens with whom I work individually in private practice have a diagnosis, such as Auditory Processing Disorder, ADHD, Asperger's Syndrome or their grades are slipping due to the trials of adolescence.  Most of these teens have a high IQ and many of them walk into my office expressing low self-confidence and the statement, "I'm stupid" is common. While strategies and techniques are employed to improve teens' grades, the real power lies in improving their self-confidence by … [Read more...]

15 Secrets of Productive Entrepreneurs and Students

15 Surprising Things Productive People Do Differently Kevin Kruse, Contributor • Growth • Jan 25, 2016 I recently interviewed over 200 ultra-productive people including seven billionaires, 13 Olympians, 20 straight-A students, and over 200 successful entrepreneurs. I asked a simple, open-ended question, “What is your No. 1 secret to productivity?” After analyzing all of their responses, I coded their answers into 15 unique ideas. Secret No. 1: They focus on minutes, not hours Average … [Read more...]

Changes to the College Application: Good News for Teens!

The college application process has changed for 50 colleges and the list will be growing! Finally, the admission process is more in alignment with learning and the mental health of high school students. The pressure to be accepted into a college or university is tremendous for many teens. This pressure has led many high school students to take multiple AP (Advanced Placement) classes, feel anxious to score extremely well on the SAT, to engage in numerous extra-curricular activities, and to … [Read more...]

3 Simple Steps to Solving Problems

The first step to solving most problems is to identify and separate the emotion so that we can clearly focus on a resolution. If we can recognize how we feel in response to a situation, then we are more aware of choosing how we want to respond to the situation. For instance, you may feel angry at what you perceive as an injustice. Once the emotion is identified, then you can think about how you want to respond. When we are unable to identify the emotion or just react impulsively, we are no … [Read more...]

10 Ways to Help Your Teen Get Rid of Anxiety

College faculty have noticed an alarming increase in anxiety and depression among college students. Depression is living in the past and anxiety is worrying about the future. Many parents are concerned about their teenager getting into a good college to ultimately have a successful career.  Teens greatly focus on their grades, test scores, standardized tests scores, and take advanced placement courses to boost their GPA to compete for college admission. Many teens hold the belief that they must … [Read more...]

3 PERSPECTIVES of BULLYING

THE BULLY There are many different reasons for a child turning into a bully or bullying . Some bullies may not be receiving much attention at home and feel unlovable and powerless. In an effort to mask their vulnerability and pain, they cause pain to others to feel less of a victim and more powerful. Other bullies may fear rejection and in an effort to protect themselves, they reject others first by bullying them to maintain a false sense of control and self-esteem.  Bullies prey on those who … [Read more...]

An Evening Lecture with Author Julie Lythcott-Haims Talking about Teens

Julie was Dean of Freshman at Stanford University and she noticed a growing trend over recent years. Many students were struggling with depression and anxiety about school and life because these young adults' sense of independence hadn't been cultivated. She is a dynamic speaker and understands the pressure of students and parents wanting their teens to attend a highly regarded college. In a parent's effort to help their teen maintain a high GPA for college entrance, many parents will do some of … [Read more...]