One Quote That Will Motivate Your Teen Today

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One Quote That Will Motivate Your Teen “Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” – Muhammad Ali”

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Reopen the door of possibility for your discouraged teen by first acknowledging their experience while you suspend judgment or an emotional reaction, which at times, is difficult. Nevertheless, this is crucial for teens to remain open and express their feelings. Next, listen carefully to their conclusions or the meaning their experience has for them. For example, “I’m not any good at writing. I keep getting ‘C’s’ on my assignments.”  While your teen is venting, there are clues to the underlying messages your teen may believe.  For instance, the message may be “I am not smart enough or good enough.” These messages are painful, but once acknowledged, your teen may be more open to hear other perspectives as to the reasons for the initial problem.  The problem may be a lack of support/assistance and offering three solutions may help your teen feel some relief.  Three options are to hire a tutor in English, request extra help from the English teacher, or suggest that you review some previous assignments to offer some tips. It is equally important to challenge your teen’s beliefs. Asking questions such as, “Does getting ‘C’s’ on your essays really justify that you aren’t smart? Are you really not good enough because you are scoring average on your assignments?” Your teen will begin to see the distortion of the beliefs.  Next, follow-up with a more realistic perspective, such as, “In spite of the challenges and regardless of any circumstance, you are valuable and good enough.  Think of some of your strengths and keep those in mind to shift from feeling frustrated or sad to feeling your powerful and awesome Self!” You might also want to share with your teen that often there is a breakdown right before a breakthrough and it takes more courage and strength to persevere during the discouraging moments than when in the easier moments. Remind your teen, it is their choice to continue to feel the discouragement or to change it. Let your teen decide, but rest assured, your words and listening have impact.